Tracking Your Time: Developing the Art of Self-discipline

I am recounting those moments in life when you literally feel like you shouldn’t do anything, and no one should prompt you into doing anything either.

It is funny how human beings are wired to operate. However, am not saying that we are sometimes lazy, of course you know that already, but I must admit that in most cases we are not just interested.

In fact, we are never interested in anything that calls for our time and resources and energy and commitment.

Self-discipline teaches that sometimes it is immoral to play cool when it is time to fight, to stay silent when a word is necessary  Click to tweet this quote

We are tuned to either play easy without supervision or sleep all day long without disturbance.

This might not make sense though in any reader who might come across this, but anyone who has ever imagined an ideal world is likely to relate with this on personal level.

As a passionate writer, I might be interested in crafting down a piece of art in a sheet of paper, but definitely not typing or sharing or the worse editing.

However, what makes us not only to write but to go through our pieces again and again, is not necessarily the fear of ridicule but rather our presence in a world that is never ideal.

There is something magical in making mistakes, it brings the magic in every individual.

Yesterday I ran into a young boy in town and stopped to say hi. As I was about to leave, I asked him to wish me something in particular and to amusement, I got what literally shocked my nerves. In that still small voice he said, “mistakes to learn from.”

However embracing these tiny mistakes as lessons rather than objects to weigh us down, is a habit which has to be cultivated over the years with sheer determination and perseverance. This blog, Penny-matters is not about money but rather advancement. Every advancement must be accompanied by series of pains, mistakes as well as streams of joys and successes.

To advance to something better or somewhere more beautiful than where you were, you need to use where and what you are to the fullest! This process is not sugary, in fact it tastes like bile yet in the same condition no one allows you to frown or contort your face in bitterness or disgust.

Track Your Time: Developing The Art Of Self-Discipline

As long as you still in the lane of those pursuing greater things in life, you will be required to smile, stick out your tongue and taste all these sorrows and bitterness and setbacks.

In life I have learned to walk through life not with my arms necessarily fidgeted and ready for self-defense from all the miseries and hurts that are likely to come along but rather with my palms open and stretched forward.

This, to me, means two things. First, I am willing to take enough risks, pains and challenges that come my way even though definitely I will end up with wounds and bruises. Secondly, I am always ready to tap all the blessings and beauty that may fall from the sky.

Human mind is a bit weird sometimes and that is why it shouldn’t be given 100% freedom. 

It has to be conditioned again and again until the aspect of positive thinking sticks to it. This process of conditioning is what I term as self-disciplining one’s mind. It is focusing your mind on one thing at a time without allowing yourself to be distracted.

We are always in the process of becoming and since we are still learning, we should maximize our time in training our mind to be more than sharp; to be positive.

As much as the situation could be disheartening, our minds must never lose the aspect of hope and optimism.

I have one rule when it comes to taking risks; Take the risk because you never actually risk anything!

Not taking risks is in fact, risking everything.

You risk meeting great people, building greater networks and links or generating leads. A journalist who wants to operate within the safe areas of Nairobi, will never come to the limelight of covering something peculiar and unique and that which the viewers will be interested in.

This explains why journalists who venture in the behind-the-scenes investigations end up being more popular than those who don’t dare.

In a nutshell, this world is being ran by self-discipline. Those who lack it risk the fate of being tossed back and forth, abused and misused, or rather play safe to that moment when the world will doubt if they really lived.

Self-discipline will teach you some of the things which you think are not really bad. Self-discipline teaches that sometimes it is immoral to play cool when it is time to fight for something, to stay silent when a word is necessary or to criticize something when its praise could make it better!

Breaking the Barriers of Mentorship; Becoming that Mentor

When it comes to the realm of mentorship, self-drive  takes the lead.

It is a field that calls for something more than dedication, commitment, donations or even passion. Serious mentors will tell you it’s not a walk in the park, true mentors will whisper, “It depends!”

Typically, we are living in a world that is trying to underestimate the power of mentorship, giving it a kind of ranking which to me, is not justifiable.

Penning down this piece, am compelled to ask you a couple of questions which hopefully, will re-awaken those giants in our minds.

Could there be something you believe you were called to which is totally distances itself from mentorship? Don’t you believe writing, sciences, businesses, or any other field you can think of all link to mentorship? Have you ever thought yourself a mentor? Or has it ever unconsciously dawn to your mind that you’ve mentored a couple of  your colleagues?

The truth is, we can never run away from reality. And the reality is that every human being on earth, living, was born to compliment another. Since logically we can never live in isolation, equally, we can never live without mentorship.

It is a part and parcel of our own beings as we get inspired and motivated by different factors.

But are we Doing it Right?

Let’s steer clear,  becoming a mentor doesn’t have to be a conversation or a lecture, in that case. We mentor with both what we say and what we do, and in order for what we say to make an impact, what we say must agree with what we do. We can never live two lives and that’s a fact. And if we do, then we aren’t living at all.

While it is true that mentorship is overrated, I have meant real mentors who deserve an applause. What inspires me a lot is that these are young people whom have embraced mentorship with both hands regardless of their fields of operation.

When I ventured into this field, my desire was focused on not what was not being done right, but on what could be done right! It is learning to see what they are not portraying and hearing what they are not saying.

Many times, the common answer to the question, “how are you?” is not necessarily the, “am fine phrase!” Individuals are always saying something beyond that, but we concentrate too much on what is perhaps pleasant and audible.

The phrase above is normally followed a sequence of ‘buts’ which we have failed to listen to. “yes, am fine…but my GPA is worrying, am fine but I am really down financially…”

When you stand before an audience, it is always important that you take time to study them, read their faces, and past them. Get to know their strengths and most importantly, their fears, insecurities, worries, challenges and then tackle them professionally with a very simplistic approach.

When you can show a low performing student how to move from a D, to a B, and finally to an A, you qualify as a mentor. However, merely telling him with an energetic voice that it is possible to get an A, and stopping there; is a lecture!

Mentorship is a factual guide but merely stating facts would rather be seen as a typical metaphysics lecture, where the deliverer do not expect the recipient to understand how, but know what!

But why do it? Why are we doing this?

The joy of mentorship is not different from that a nursing mother. Though she knows that one day her bouncing baby boy will turn twenty five, think of marriage and leave the household, and even perhaps forget about her and concentrate on his family, she never stops yearning for that moment.

This is so because that is the only moment when she will know that she was a good mother. There is no greater joy apart from the one we get when we see the smiles on their faces, and deep within we know that we played a crucial role in ensuring that those smiles were forth coming.

We get satisfied in a manner that we won’t need any word of thanks or a cup of coffee. We doing this because we can’t stop doing it!  Sometimes it’s simply because:

“The wisest, most loving & well rounded people you have ever met are likely those who have known misery, known defeat, known heartbreak of losing something or someone they loved and found their way out of depths of their own despairs.”

These words by Caren  Anyango, a down-to-heart  and kindest of hearts, hopefully, drives the point home. Having recently grabbed a KUSA award, and being the founder of the Ujana Initiative, Caren has been a great mentor to many even at her younger age.

Two Key Principles That you Should Carry Along into the Realm of Mentorship.

The following are the key principles which have applied and shared with several people concerning different topics and I believe they still also hold true in the mentorship arena.

  1. If it is to be it is up to you;

Talking to Dream Possible mentors, it was necessary to let them know that the success of their mentorship journey was solely dependent on them and not their mentees, leaders or the financiers.

When you take upon it that you are the one responsible, you will not take anything for granted that comes your way.

Blame games are known to tear organizations apart and also shun thousands of dreams. Learn to embrace your own faults, learn from your mistakes and go for what you believe in, no matter the price.

  1. The only way to get what you want in life, is to help a couple others get what they want in life.

Kindness always pay, just like the lack of it too!

From mere Face book likes and sharing, you will meet great people whom you never thought of meeting.

Your mentorship journey would have started rather peculiar, but by helping them achieve their dreams, you intellectually develop and your niche and scope of operation broaden.

Finally,

I believe you have what it takes to be an accomplished mentor. Just wear the brightest of your smile, the best of your attitude and the worst of your pretense; be real but never stop dreaming.

Let’s meet at the top. 🙂

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